Discernment is more than just continuous prayers, and loving someone is more than just accepting the person and all his/her imperfections. Relationships are a journey of discoveries about our very self and about our partner, involving a series of decisions, either as an individual or as a couple. It is a cliché that love is not just a feeling, but a decision, but many of us stop the decision process there. Thus, the relationship stagnates. We fail to realize that along with the decision to love are series of other decisions we must make in order to become a suitable mate.

Many of us have issues in life--issues within ourselves which do not go away until we decide to overcome them,  and a number of these issues we only discover when we are with a partner. Therefore, bringing in another person in our lives does not make things any better--in fact, it often complicates the matter. It is a foolish thought that one becomes a better person because of his/her partner. No! One becomes who he is because of the decision he made for himself and not for someone else’s sake.

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